It often happens that the child's parents separate and later the mother gets a new man who sooner or later enters the family and becomes a stepfather.

It is not always possible to establish a good relationship with a child, but this is very important, because when a stepfather and his stepson / stepdaughter are at odds, the mother is in constant tension and most often breaks up with a man for the sake of her own child.

There are general recommendations that will help a non-native dad get closer to the baby.

Do not expect that the child will reach out to you from the first day, love simply cannot arise at the first meeting. It's a lot of work. Be ready to move towards this gradually. The kid needs to get used to you, so don't push him or take offense.

Don't try to replace your own father. Always try to speak about him with respect, it is more important for you to become a friend to the child. In particular, this applies to those cases when he sees his biological father once in a while.

So how does a stepfather find a common language with a child?

If a baby sees how much you love his mother, with what awe you treat her, he will certainly appreciate it and will appreciate you for it, because seeing a happy mother in front of him is a great happiness.

It is impossible to live without quarrels at all, and sooner or later misunderstandings will arise, but in this case, try to understand the child, not to yell at him, but to talk calmly and in an adult way. At first, a child may deliberately anger you and get emotional, because you are a stranger to him.

It is very important in such situations to be restrained and calm, not to break into shouting and insults, and in no case mention in the quarrel that he is a stranger to you.

Even if the relationship has become good, and you feel that you have become close to the baby, do not demand that he call you "daddy", if he wants, he will come to it himself, and if not, it is only his choice. It won't make you any less close. And, of course, do not compete with the biological father of the child. You are different people and should not compete.

Remember that, first of all, for a child, you are the person who takes away his beloved and only mother, because now her attention will be divided on the two of you. Your task is to show that with your appearance, mom will not love her child less.

Try, especially at first, to get out somewhere with the three of you: to parks, rides, movies, etc. This is necessary so that the child does not feel abandoned and abandoned. He should understand that thanks to your appearance in their family, another person will love him.

Try to become a good friend to your "new" child, be sincere with him and treat him with understanding. https://autoplus.su/news/interesnye-kejsy-csgo-kak-vybrat-vyigryshnyj-variant.html